There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance. Unfortunately, in today’s world, a lot of people my age stray more towards arrogance, and expect to get places because of it.
Let’s get real for a minute here. I get that most companies, and most business owners are impressed by a strong sense of confidence coming from the young individual searching for employment in their areas. It’s a good thing! Look at how proudly they walk, they have no shame in anything because they know they can do whatever it is that they want to, and they can do it well.
But there’s a difference between knowing you can do something well, and knowing you can do something well. For instance, do not go up to your interviewer (which sometimes so happens to be the boss of the division) and tell him what changes need to be made in the company. If these changes are made, then you’ll think about working with them.
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Well, please, your highness, I wouldn’t want you to do us any favors. I mean, it would be honor to have a low-jack like you working in a prestigious company. What were we thinking? Get the CEO on the phone. He needs to meet this guy.
I knew a guy like that. I knew a guy who with every job interview he’d botch, he’d botch because he would tell the interviewer what sucks about their company and what they can do to improve it. Even though he was usually only applying to be a technician.
Another way to prove your arrogance, although small and insignificant, is showing to the world that on Facebook, we’re lucky enough to be able to subscribe to you now. Because you know, you lead such an exciting and hectic life working at Panera bread, AND having a few photo shoots taken in your backyard. This makes you a professional model. Calvin Klein STILL hasn’t called you?! Also, that band that you’ve assembled at the age of 24 that still practices in the garage is doing wonders for you, isn’t it? I’m surprised you haven’t received a platinum album yet.
I can understand people being able to subscribe to people like George Clooney, and Robert Downey Jr., but you?! Hop off that high horse of yours. You’re not all that great.
And last but certainly not least, I’m sure all of you ladies have run into this guy.
“Hey baby, what are you doin’ for the rest of the evenin’?” Wink, wink. Kiss kiss.
Well, then Casanova, I was thinking finishing my drink with my girls, but now that you’ve approached, let me just drop my panties. I’ve always wanted to tell my future children the story of how I met their father. “Well, your father called me baby and I just melted right there. That was the night we conceived you!”
I actually have a real problem with guys doing this. It really irks me. So, you think you’re going to get my number and get some because you had the decency to come up to me and call me baby and not ask for my name? Really? And does that work? And if so, do you find yourself a respectable woman?
I didn’t think so.
The reaction would be completely different if it was the same guy and he walked up and said something different. Maybe start a random conversation, or even ask for my name.
Can people please start seeing the difference between confidence and arrogance? It’s not that difficult to steer clear of that little, white line that separates the two.
Oh, bless our little hearts as a society.
